How many times have you heard the phrase "I have to..." or "They made me..." or "I had no choice...". Did you really "have" to? Did they really "make" you? Did you truly have "no choice"? Anytime you have a choice (which is almost always), you don't have to choose a particular option, and no one can make you choose that option. The option you choose is the one you want.
For example, you work at a place you dislike. Some morning, you may be tempted to say "I have to go to work today." Well, that's not really true. You have other options. You could choose to not go to work that day. You could choose to never go to work there ever again. There are plenty of humans out there that choose that option. What makes you different than them? There would be ramifications for sure. You may want to explain the situation to your employer; you may want to find a new job; you may lose your house and/or your family. You could choose to live in a box and eat dog food. The point is that you choose to go to work because you want that more than you want all the alternatives .. when you consider all the factors.
Humans rarely make other humans do anything. A man points a gun at your head and says "Give me your wallet." You give him your wallet because you want to more than you want a bullet hole in your skull. He is not making you give him your wallet unless he pins you down and forcefully takes it from you. Your boss (or spouse) makes you do something? Not likely, unless he/she is physically forcing your body to do it. And at that point, he/she is the one doing it, not you
There are certain situations in which you must do something. But these are situations in which there is truly no choice. Your body must die. You must obey the laws of physics. You can't choose an alternative in these situations (unless of course you are a superhero).
If you want to choose a happy life, think of the situations you encounter as opportunities to evaluate your choices (even the not-so-obvious ones) and go with what you want. If you think you can make someone do what you want, guess again. All you can do is provide more information to that person and hope that it motivates them to want what you want. Embrace life and be happy that you have so many choices.
